The Stone

It's kind of hard to see...his name is in the middle. Here's what it says:

Gabriel James

Born into the arms of Jesus

on October 30, 2009

Thanks to my friend, Charity who took this photo!

I haven't been to the cemetary since this was taken. There's no peticular reason. I think about going, it just doesn't happen. And it's not really a place I want to go alone...I guess I just don't really like going to cemetaries. I don't think of Gabriel as being there. I think of him in Heaven playing and laughing with Jesus and his family and other little children. I am hoping to at least get to the cemetary on his birthday to honor his memory. Maybe bring some flowers or a pinwheel (I have two still!).

I still think of Gabriel everyday but haven't cried for a while. It's hard to imagine what he'd be like now at 9 months if he would have lived. It's hard to think of what your child would have been like when you never got a chance to meet them.

I do know one thing, he would have been as beautiful as the day he was born!

And now the tears come...

Loving you, missing you, thinking of you, everyday...baby boy.

The Graveside Service

I was going through Gabriel's box of memorabilia. I got a bit choked up and teary-eyed. I thought it would be nice to share some things with you.


We had a private Graveside Service for Gabriel. Here's some pictures. Sorry some are blurry.

The urn was with Grandpa's ashes. Gabriel and Grandpa Wodtke were buried together. The flowers in the vase were for Gabriel. The patriotic flowers were for Jim.

Each of us put a flower on the casket.

Daddy

Grandma

Grammy and Halayna

Papa

Halayna

Aunt Carrie

Grammy

Aunt Hyunjin


Goodbye our sweet Gabriel. Until we see you again in Heaven...

I was looking in the book that people signed at the memorial service. Here are some of what they wrote that I thought was really sweet.

"I will see you in Heaven. Love you baby Gabriel."

"The Archangel Gabriel needs some help in the heavenlies so he summoned my grandson Gabriel to join him. Can't wait to join him someday." -Papa

"Gabriel, we loved you before you were born and will be able to love you in heaven again one day."

"Gabriel will always hold a special place in all our hearts, he will be remembered always."

"Little perfect one. You really missed a wonderful family here on earth, but they know you are with our Heavenly Father, peaceful, happy and never will know a tear, pain, or sorrow. Send a little of peace to those who will miss you."

"Sweet Pea"

Tears burned my eyes tonight as I looked at Gabriel's ultrasound picture. It's hard to go back to that moment when he was alive and to now be in this moment knowing he is not.

I have had such joy and excitement yesterday and today since seeing "Sweet Pea". But there is that other family member not getting to celebrate his younger sibling.


Before the ultrasound, I still had not decided yet if I wanted to know the gender of the baby. I didn't finally decide until the ultrasound tech. told me to decide quickly since she wanted to look at the baby's blatter. I had been thinking it would be fun to be surprised again but I felt like knowing if this was a boy or girl would give me a better connection with the baby. I feel like maybe I would have had a better connection with Gabriel if I had known he was a boy. So that's when I told the tech. that yeah I wanted to know.

I wasn't too surprised when we found out the gender. If you've read my other postings and if you know about all my children, you'd know that there seems to be a pattern of genders. First was a girl, Halayna. Second, even though I don't know for sure, I thought it was a boy. Third, still not knowing for sure, I thought it was a girl. Fourth was Gabriel, all boy! So, obviously this has to be a....girl! And I couldn't be happier. Was I hoping for a boy? No. I was hoping for a healthy, normal baby. I smile when I think of "Sweet Pea." She is beautiful and I can't wait to meet her in November!

Thank you all my faithful blog readers for sharing in this happiness with me!

Ultrasound

I had a bit of joy today!
I got to see my precious, sweet #5!
And yes, I was very nervous going in! My heart was probably beating just as fast as Baby's! The ultrasound tech. went over everything and it all seemed fine which eased my mind!

We came home and compared ultrasound pictures with Halayna's and Gabriel's. We think Baby looks like Gabriel based off of the profile ultrasound pictures.

I was filled with such joy just watching my baby moving around on the screen.

We did find out the gender and I will post it here later.
For now, we'll call baby #5, "Sweet Pea".

It's been more than 8 months

Gabriel has been gone longer than he was alive.
Isn't it amazing how many lives have been changed by this little baby boy we never got to know?
How many lives were changed by this boy who was only alive for 7 1/2 months.

I can say that I still think of Gabriel everyday but I haven't cried for him for a while and I've been feeling good. Of course I know that with grief, there are ups and downs. So I've been feeling up lately. Maybe it's the anticipation of this new baby, #5.

This new baby reminds me of Gabriel though. The other day, when I grabbed Daniel's hand to feel baby move, baby stopped. Just like Gabriel did when he was this small. Of course, Halayna could have done that too but I just don't remember. Plus, I didn't feel Halayna move until I was further along. It reminded me of Gabriel and I didn't feel sad. I actually smiled and had a good memory of him. It was such a nice feeling since there just aren't very many memories of him.

I'm looking forward to getting some pictures of Gabriel printed and getting some frames up after we move our house. And of course, I still have the memory book to do. Something I still have not done. Something that I'm still not sure how to do exactly and of course, haven't found the perfect time or the perfect materials to do so. Will I ever?

A Visitor from Heaven

A visitor from heaven,
If only for awhile.
A gift of love to be returned.
We think of you and smile.

A visitor from heaven,
Accompanied by grace.
Reminding of a better love
And of a better place.

With aching hearts and empty arms,
We send you with a name.
It hurts so much to let you go,
But we're so glad you came.
We're so glad you came.

A visitor from heaven,
If only for a day.
We thank Him for the time He gave,
And now it's time to say,
We trust you to the Father's love,
And to His tender care.
Held in the everlasting arms,
And we're so glad you're there.
We're so glad you're there.

With breaking hearts and open hands,
We send you with a name.
It hurts so much to let you go,
But we're so glad you came.
We're so glad you came.

By, Twila Paris


Missing you baby boy.